friends

[katriona_s]

I have many good friends in UK, one in Switzerland and some in USA. In my own country, in various cities, there are some good friends I can visit and enjoy together on my holiday trip. Also I have you, the friends on internet whom I have never met in the real life still have some sympathy and feeling of friendship each other - so I believe :) Though at home, in my own city or in the neighborhood, I can't say the same. I have been always clumsy to make friends in the class rooms of schools or university. In the office I can enjoy casual chat with my co-workers, and we have some trust or sympathy each other, still they are not friends. A few good friends whom I have shared some of my daily life with, enjoyed eating out or short trips together when we were younger - now they are busy for the job or family matter (most of time taking care of their old parents), or have physical or financial problems. - my best friend had move to Canada for her husband's job. And without my own partner nor family, recently I often find there is no one I can eat out with or travel together. Usually I enjoy travel by myself, but sometimes find good places or nice lodgings where I might enjoy to visit or stay with good friend. Or, when I find good restaurants often it's improper to go there alone. Now, my retirement from the office is not far, then no conversation in the office. Now I can talk with my mother every day and talk to my rabbit or garden cats. But naturally they will leave me in the future. So I think I need to find friends - in my generation or younger than me, and who I can talk to in my daily life. The new friends might never be the same as the old friends still I would need them. But it's quite difficult thing for me. I think I should join some club or class of hobbies and it's also not easy. Difficult...



"I will need no friends!"

Comments

[vilakins]

I have my partner and we're best friends, but I do want to have other friends too to do things with. I would like to join an art club, but so far haven't found one here, although there are so many artists in this town. Maybe I'll ask one of them. I go to a craft group every two weeks, but though most of them are very nice, I wouldn't call any a friend. Yes, it's hard!

[katriona_s]

There are many nice people in this world, but it doesn't mean they suit us. Yes having good friends is real fortune!

[vera_j]

Well, yes, I have been living here alone for 15 years but I am not lonely - but I have my family and that is different from your position, isn´t it?
Joining a club or classes doesn´t mean that you find friends there but there is always a chance. It is difficult - we are different and I do not think I should give you advice. It is so individual and personal. But hey, Nil Desperandum, ok?

[katriona_s]

Thanks! Generally I like being by myself. Here, in our Japanese society many people do the things which they don't really like but just to get on well with other people - especially about what they watch on TV or what they do on holidays - but I have disliked that way of life. I want to find friend with whom I can do what I like but very often I am attracted to not-very-popular things XD So it's not easy!

[coffeetime]

I agree it is a challenge, meeting new friends. And my longtime local friends are often too busy/not available, for the same reasons you mentioned. I met my trivia team on Meetup.com and we play one match every week, but we also get together for parties, one-to-one for coffee or lunch, and sometimes to help each other (build something, move something heavy, repair a broken thing). I also belong to a book club sponsored by Meetup.com. Maybe there are Meetup.com groups near you, or something similar?

[katriona_s]

It sounds clever. I will try to find something like that! Thank you!

[michaelboy]

Aww, this feels somewhat lonely. I'm sorry. I hope the best for you to find those close by friends. You have a gentle way about you.

[katriona_s]

Thank you for your kind words.